Janitor Bob Posted February 15, 2011 Report Share Posted February 15, 2011 I just had to share.....for the 4th....Yes the 4th time this season I have a 18 or 19-year old un-married dependent who has had a baby in 2010 I am getting tired being the financial "man-in-the-middle" between mom, mom's parents, dad, and dad's parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kcjenkins Posted February 15, 2011 Report Share Posted February 15, 2011 I've had two so far this year. I feel so sad for these girls, and even more so for their babies. It's terrible, IMHO, that our society today seems to encourage these children to keep and try to raise their babies, since it is the babies who end up with the short side of the stick. As an adopted child myself, I just wish I could advise them that if they really do love their babies, they give them the wonderful gift of an intact family made up of mature and solvent adult parents. OK, I will get off the soapbox now. If you don't agree, please just pass on and don't try to start an argument over this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janitor Bob Posted February 15, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 15, 2011 It is especially hard for me because my daughter is 19 and experiencing all of the excitement of college and deciding what her future may hold. Most of these girls will never get to experience this and alrerady know what their futures hold.....Its just sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kcjenkins Posted February 15, 2011 Report Share Posted February 15, 2011 Yes, one of my two so far is a child that I first met when she was still in the infant carrier as I did her mother's return. I've seen her each year since then, as she grew into a lovely young girl. I've encouraged her to attempt excellence in high school, even buying her a special calculator when she decided to take an advanced math class. She has earned a full academic scholarship at Harding, a respected private collage here in AR. Then, at 17, she got pregnant by her nice but loser boyfriend. She had her baby just days before her 18th birthday. And, of course, she is keeping the baby, living at home with her hard-working mother and disabled and dying father, and still hoping to go to college. What a life that child is going to face! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SCL Posted February 16, 2011 Report Share Posted February 16, 2011 jb and kc, i feel the empathy in this thread. for what it's worth... yes, in the usa (or since western civilization's 18th century's era of enlightenment) there could be a better outcome for an unwed mom and child...but, for almost anywhere else in the world, a similar outcome would be much worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnH Posted February 16, 2011 Report Share Posted February 16, 2011 Daniel Patrick Moynihan was a prophetic voice back in 1965, wasn't he? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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